11/6/24
Milan James Sefca passed away peacefully in his home, on November 6, 2024, leaving behind a legacy of kindness and warmth. Born on November 26, 1954, at Auburn Hospital in Auburn, NY, Milan went on to lead a life devoted to family, hard work, and a love for life’s simple, beautiful moments.
Milan’s character was defined by his easy-going nature, his thoughtfulness, and his genuine care for others. Known to be a great listener and a loyal friend, he had a unique gift for making people feel valued, whether through a warm conversation, a helping hand, or a heartfelt gift.
Milan was blessed to have lived a free-spirited childhood on the family farm, spending endless hours with his brother and cousins - exploring the nature around his home, climbing and swinging from trees, splashing in the creek, hunting for puffballs, and fishing in the pond. If Milan wasn’t on the farm, he could be found in town causing innocent trouble with friends, jumping off the pier into Skaneateles Lake, or driving his iconic MG Midget.
After graduating from Skaneateles High School in 1973, Milan started a job in manufacturing but eventually found himself working at Trabold’s Garage, where his grand and genuine grin earned him the name that all know so well, “Smilin’ Milan”. His love for vehicles stuck with him for life as he made a career out of hauling tractor trailers - cross country and locally - and operating cranes on the railroad. Milan was a faithful provider for his family and proud of his membership as a Teamster (Local 317). Upon retirement, he found joy working on a local farm, enjoying the chance to drive equipment once more and spend his days outside in the sun.
Milan’s passions were many and centered around his love for nature and family. He found joy in camping, fishing, bonfires, skiing, boat rides, and long drives through the countryside. He was captivated by the beauty of a golden sunset, cherished quiet mornings with coffee and the daily newspaper, and never missed an opportunity to watch the Buffalo Bills or Syracuse basketball on TV. A lover of photography, he captured countless memories through his lens, preserving the beauty of nature and the faces of those he held dear. Known for his knack for fixing things, Milan had a talent for seeing the potential in objects others might discard, often breathing new life into broken items with skillful care.
One of Milan’s favorite and proudest projects was clearing a patch of land to call “camp” on the family farm alongside his son, Ben—a place where they could relax and immerse themselves in the peaceful sounds of nature. Milan was also extremely proud to call himself “Grandpa Milan” and never missed an opportunity to give thoughtful gifts to his grandsons on birthdays and at Christmas.
Milan was predeceased by his father, Milan Sefca, but is lovingly remembered by his children Erin (Jeremy) Clark and Benjamin Sefca; grandchildren Cameron, Oliver, and Asher Clark; mother, Lucille Sefca; brother, Joseph Sefca; and cousins Mark (Susan) Hess, Bryan Hess, Carol Hess, and Alan (Susan) Hess. His legacy lives on in his family, who will always remember his thoughtful spirit, gentle humor, and kind heart.
A memorial service will be held on his birthday, Tuesday, November 26th, at 11 am at Robert D. Gray Funeral Home in Skaneateles, NY where all are welcome to attend. A burial will follow at Lake View Cemetery. Following the service, all are invited to a Celebration of Life at the Skaneateles Legion Post #239 to commemorate the life of a remarkable man who, with a quiet strength and boundless warmth, touched the hearts of all who knew him. Guests are welcome to bring a photo or token to share at the reception.
In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to SAVES or the Skaneateles Fire Department.
Milán was so cool! And you’ve captured his spirit beautifully here.
When I first moved to Skaneateles as a senior in high school, I was embraced in friendship by Carol Hess who also happened to have a cousin named Milan— (who by the way was one of the most highly charged, handsome skaters at the town’s ice rink that still to this day makes me dizzy thinking about!)!
The story of his life on the family farm in the gorgeous valley between Skaneateles and Marcellus is so charming — as was he — always smiling, so positive and so fun loving.
The Sefca’s really do own a patch of heaven on earth and it’s wonderful how he made good use…
Milan was a beautiful soul. Back in the day we had many a laugh and fun times at our old stomping ground's at Morris’s. That smile will be truly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with your whole family..
Beautiful memorial for an interesting and active person.
I’m very sorry for your loss. He was a very kind gentleman and my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Sending my deepest condolences and prayers to your family and loved ones during this difficult time.
This is the most beautiful memorial, May you rest in peace.